Friday, September 28, 2012
As an update, I recently finished up with my clinical rotations and am now applying to residency programs. I'll be traveling to interviews all over the country and would be interested in meeting readers of my blog in person. Drop me a line if you'd be interested in meeting up. Unfortunately, no trips planned to Utah, I just can't bring myself to consider moving back to the Mormon Corridor.
Friday, January 27, 2012
My wife and I have been somewhat frustrated in trying to find a support group for mixed-orientation marriages that seem relevant to our situation (young married couple with young children), so we are starting a facebook group for Mixed Orientation Families. The group is for individuals/couples currently or previously in marriages where one or both spouses are gay or bisexual. We will discuss issues related to navigating parenthood, marriage, and/or divorce while accepting your non-heterosexual identity.
You do not have to be currently married or intending to stay married to join this group. Individuals who have gone through divorce or separation can offer a lot of insight into navigating family-related pitfalls for gay or bisexual parents, spouses, or ex-spouses.
The goal is to have an accepting place to discuss issues related to topics specific to this subpopulation and to help us feel not so alone. Any life path forward that is mindfully chosen will be honored in the group: monogamy, non-monogamy in its various forms, divorce, etc.
If you would be interested in joining this group, please let me know and I will add you. It is a secret facebook group so it will not show up on others' news feeds and you cannot access it by searching for it.
Saturday, October 15, 2011
Just a quick update. I finished 3 weeks of Neurology and took the final exam on Friday. Monday starts a week of Ophthalmology and the next week is Orthopedic Surgery. For Neurology I was got the assignment to work at the Children's Hospital. It was great to get some clinical interaction with kids again. There was a nice overlap with genetics and Neurology. It was also incredibly depressing to see some of the terrible things some children go through. Neurology is home to some of the most depressing illnesses imaginable. It reminded me of Elder Packer's now famous: "Why would God do that to anyone?" I saw kids with genetic diseases that left their nerves undeveloped who will never be able to breath on their own. I saw other kids who have seizures that have destroyed their brains and they no longer can interact with the world. I saw others born without most of their brain and some who had strokes that had transformed them from normal kids to vegetables. I prefer to not believe in a God who controls the minutiae of our lives such that He is responsible for such things happening. If anything, the experience was a testimony builder for my atheism. I'm grateful to no longer have to try and reconcile such atrocities with a loving Heavenly Father.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Here is the latest research announcement that I received:
I am a doctoral student of Human Development and Family Studies at Iowa State University. I am doing my dissertation research on commitment in mixed-orientation relationships (non-heterosexual man partnered with a heterosexual woman). This study has been approved by the university’s Institutional Review Board (IRB) for the protection of human subjects. Please pass this along to anyone who may be interested.
Participants qualify IF:
• The male experiences same-sex attractions or behavior, regardless of self-identification.
• The female identifies as straight or heterosexual.
• The non-heterosexuality of the male has been acknowledged between the couple for at least three years.
• The couple is in a committed intimate relationship, legally recognized or not.
• Both partners are willing to be interviewed.
The couple need not be in a sexually monogamous relationship, but they should identify each other as their primary partner. Participants may come from any state within the United States.
Participants will be asked to sign an informed consent document and to complete a short demographic questionnaire. I plan to interview the couple together once and each partner individually once. Most interviews will be held by phone or by Skype. If participants live within the state of Iowa, interviews may be held in person, if possible. Interviews will last approximately 60 minutes. After I have completed my interviews, participants will be invited to review a preliminary analysis of the results and to provide feedback if they wish.
Participant identity will be kept strictly confidential. Digital transcripts will be kept in password-protected computer files. Printed transcripts and completed demographic questionnaires will be kept in a locked file cabinet in my office until the end of the study. Audio recordings will be deleted after transcription. Pseudonyms will be assigned to participants on the transcripts.
Those interested in participating in the study can contact me by email at email@example.com or by phone at 515-441-9397. To ensure participant confidentiality, respondents should indicate how they wish to be contacted.
Thank you for your time!
Department of Human Development & Family Studies
Iowa State University
Monday, September 5, 2011
My OB/GYN rotation is half over. I've delivered several babies, learned to do the pelvic exam, diagnosed STDs, counseled on birth control, and been privy to intensely intrusive experiences that patients grant their doctors, particularly in OB/GYN. The rotation has its ups and downs. I'm learning a lot and it is exciting how much we are able to do to improve the health of our patients. On the other hand, there is a certain messiness inherent to OB/GYN work that is just nasty and I don't think I'll be seeking a career in OB/GYN.
Despite ongoing efforts to decompartmentalize my life, this rotation seems to be reinforcing a certain amount of compartmentalization. I'm out at a rural health center where I stay in the nursing dorms during the week and then come back to the city on the weekends for classroom instruction. When I am out at the hospital, I have essentially no family responsibilities and its like I'm a single student in undergrad again. When I come back to the city I try to spend time with the family and I'm so busy with household responsibilities that I hardly have time to study. It's great to have so much study time out at the hospital so I don't feel too stressed without study time over the weekends, but I have this odd feeling of compartmentalization to my life. At the hospital I'm granted extremely intrusive access to patients (such as being part of a team of three doctors shoved between the legs of an anesthetized woman performing a vaginal hysterectomy) and then there is this entirely different life at home. I think easing back into clinics with this away rotation has probably been the best way to get back into my clinical rotations, but there will need to be additional work at reintegrating my life during the next rotations, when I will be at the local hospital and living at home during the rotation.
Sunday, August 14, 2011
My first rotation back is a 6-week OB/GYN rotation, which basically means there are going to be lots of vaginas.
Sunday, August 7, 2011
Having finished up my PhD, I am now back in clinics to learn how to be a doctor. I have been in my refresher course for one week and have one week left to go before actual graded course work begins. The clinic schedule is somewhat different from working in a lab with really early mornings and eighty hour work weeks, not to mention a loss of autonomy and the ability to structure my own day. But I am in a very different place personally than I was last time I was in the clinics and overall I think it is a better place to be. Things are also coming back to me faster than I expected them to. I was working in the lab for a long time.